5 Ways to Deal With a Situation When You are Earning More than Your Man
4. Communicate more
While you may try limiting a lot of negativity around him, there will always be set of people, such as his colleagues or friends that you can’t ever control. If they try and put negative thoughts in his head, there is no way you will be able to control the situation. Except, unless, you talk it out. Unless you calm him down, talk to him more, try sorting your arguments and take decisions together, there is no way that both of you will be able to enjoy peace in your life. Involve him more on financial decisions and discuss how you both want to move ahead in life step by step. That will make him feel that he holds a lot of value in your life, and that he is still more important to you than the money you earn.
5. Make him feel he is the ‘breadwinner’
When a man pays for all the major expenses in the house, such as the house rents, electricity bills, phone bills, Internet bills, he feels as if he is running the house. Let him get that feeling and let his duties and responsibilities be the same even after you are earning more than him. Technically speaking, when all minor expenses are added up, they often cost the same as the major expenses. These may include repairs at home, buying groceries, stationery and books for kids on and off, transport for taking kids. You should pay for these minor expenses, which don’t seem ‘apparent’, and let the husband manage the major expenses. That way, he will psychologically feel that he is in charge of the house, and is running it.
Try and follow these steps, and avoid arguments where you end up talking about you earning more than him. With better communication between you and him, and a mutually respectful atmosphere at home, couples can sort out such issues easily.
