Top 5 Tips To Improve Mother Daughter Relationship
4. Don’t just talk to her, also listen to your daughter
When you have a conversation with your daughter, make sure it’s not you who talk all through the while. Let her also give inputs. Don’t sit down and advice her on little things. Let her share her experiences. There might be something even you don’t know of or an emotion that she can share only with you. At such times, it may happen that you may get into an excessive ‘motherly love’ mode and want to ‘feel’ her pain. You must ensure that you keep yourself detached and only ‘listen’ to her, instead of feeling for her. For example, your daughter might not want you to feel her pain post breakup, but may just want someone to listen to her deepest emotions after such an episode. So, the mantra here is, just do the needful, nothing beyond that.
5. Write down your expectations and see what you’re getting
This is one of the major areas where the mother-daughter relationship turns sour. It is expectations that steal the magic out of a mother-daughter relationship. So, if you think you’re going through a really bad time managing with your daughter, take some time for yourself. Sit down with a paper and write down your expectations from your daughter. Now, also write down how she is actually treating you. As you write down stuff, you’d realize everything is fine at your daughter’s end, only your expectations were a little high. To illustrate, you may want her to call you at least 5 times in a day and she may be calling only twice. In that case, you must realize that your daughter has a life of her own. So, it’s okay if she can’t find time from her studies to call you. This list will help you sort half the issues with your daughter.
