10 Steps to Get Over a Painful Breakup
6. Close the matter
It is beneficial to analyze what went wrong as long as you don’t obsess over it. Sometimes you need to face the issues head on so that you can close the issue before starting the next chapter of your life. So go ahead, write down what you feel went wrong in the relationship. Get out the resentment and bitterness. Express your feelings of betrayal and then accept the inevitability that you do not have the power to change.
7. Take support from family and friends
If feelings of depression persist for a long time, it is obvious that you need some support. Take help from your friends and family. Loving relationships have the power to heal. When you are surrounded by people who are totally and firmly by your side and have no qualms about admitting it, it makes you feel stronger, lighter and more confident. So go ahead, reach out to your loved ones and take comfort in their midst.
8. Immerse yourself in an activity you love
Once you start getting a little over your grief, throw yourself into your work, or any other activity or project that you love. It could be dance, drama, painting, sculpture, anything that will give you happiness. Something which will make you forget your pain and enable you to start afresh.
9. Take control of your life
For however long your relationship lasted, you were doing what was expected of you. Now start living for yourself. Take your own decisions. Change your look, dress the way you want to, join a gym or just laze around. Start respecting yourself. Be responsible for your own actions. Take control over your own life. You will emerge from your sorrow into a bolder, more confident person.
10. Take a break
If possible go off for a quiet weekend somewhere peaceful or if you prefer it, to a crowded place where you are never alone. This will help to refresh you and help you sort yourself out so that things do not look as bleak when you come back.
The end of a relationship should not mean the end of your world. It should be a phase of your life which had the power to hurt you, but which also taught you how to survive . Every relationship we have, teaches us something good and something bad. Hold on to the good, let go of the bad, and move forward resolutely. Leave the darkness behind and step into the sunshine.
