Make Forgiving Easy With These Top 7 Tips
A wise man once said, “Only the brave know how to forgive” Do you find it hard to forgive? Is there bitterness between you and someone else that is difficult to forget? I know how it feels because I’ve been through all of it. But the good news is that it is easier than you think. Let us go through 7 ways you can learn to forgive and forget, without too much hassle.
1. Hatred is not going to change anything
Before you pull your hair out over frustration and feelings of hatred and animosity, do you even realize that all this is not going to change anything? Your hatred is not going to harm them! So when are you going to stop licking your wounds? If you don’t stop licking, the wound will never heal. Regret, agony, anger and hatred are feelings that will kill whatever emotion is left within you. Don’t let that happen and begin to let go of hatred, which is the root cause of your inability to forgive.
2. Best revenge is success
Okay, I want you to think of that high school bitch you hated all your life. Now, years down the line, would you be more annoyed if you saw her as a high flying executive in a multinational bank with her shiny car and a handsome husband? Of course, you would. So my point is that there is no better revenge than success. If you think that you’ve been hurt, betrayed or let down by someone, success is the best way to make them burn.
3. Is it really worth it?
We’ve all sat on the couch with that tub of ice-cream thinking of how much pain life is throwing at us, haven’t we? Well ladies, it’s time to sit up and think, “Is this all really worth it?” Punishing yourself for someone else’s wrong doing is not the way to go missy! So if you want to really forgive and forget, ask yourself if the relationship is worth all these troubles. If it is, decide on a course of action to set things right, the way that should be. If it isn’t, forget it.
4. Differentiate people from events
I think what hits us most is the fact that someone did ‘something’ in a certain situation. Do you usually associate hatred with a certain event? A lot of us do and that’s the whole problem. Learn to separate the event from the person because many a times, people do act in the wrong way but it hurts most because they do it at the wrong place and the wrong time. That embarrassment that someone hurt you when you were among thousands is so hard to digest. Also, if you go to think of it, everyone has flaws. Big deal, even you have some. So, learn to dissociate the event with the person and you will be on your way to forgiving them.
