Blind Date Tips
Have a positive attitude
Always think, “Yes, my date is going to be successful and I’m going to have a great time”. And you will! If you go for a blind date with a mental makeup that things won’t work out, they probably won’t, since this attitude will be reflected in your behavior. Your date will sense this, which will dampen his enthusiasm and he will lose interest in talking or sharing anything. Keep in mind that this also might be embarrassing for the common friend who set you up, if they come to know that you were the party spoiler.
Bring a friend along to begin
If your blind date has been set up by a common friend who knows the two of you, this strategy can prove to be helpful. Firstly, having a third person can make breaking the ice an easy job. Plus, it will also get the conversation flowing. Then the two of you can be left alone, once you find it comfortable enough to talk to each other. And secondly, if your blind date has come with any evil intentions towards you, bringing a friend along would be a spoiler to his intentions. If in the first few minutes you figure out that this is not the guy for you, it will be easy for you to leave the date if you have a friend along, rather than leaving alone.
Follow common etiquettes
Treat your blind date with the same courtesy that you would to any other person. Arrive on time, don’t take your date for granted, appreciate his appearance, give him a heads up if you are running late for the date or if you are going to cancel it the last minute. Be polite in your conversation and make sure he feels comfortable in your company. Irrespective of the blind date working out or not, he will surely remember you as a nice person.
Don’t fake it
Just for the heck of making the opposite person feel good, don’t fake a personality that you don’t really have. If you disagree with him, tell him that you do. Mention your true interests. Otherwise, even if a second date happens, it will be useless as you will be trapped in your own fake personality. This is especially critical on a blind date, since you are dealing with someone who does not know you at all and hence it is important to offer them an honest picture of your personality.
Have a pleasant goodbye
Have a cordial end to the date. Some people make excuses to leave early and abruptly, if the date doesn’t seem to be going well. That is an escapist way of dealing with things. Even if your blind date doesn’t turn out to be ideal, sit through it and then be honest to your date about how it went. If they the person is really good, he will appreciate this honesty rather than getting annoyed. Decide to be friends in the future so that you don’t leave a bad taste in each other’s mouth. If you have several blind dates, you cannot end up making as many foes. So be cordial with every blind date you have.
Maintain a follow up
After the blind date ends, send him a text message or a short email the next day saying thank you and mentioning that you enjoyed the date. If you are seeking another date with him, gently ask him, when he would like to meet you next, leaving a subtle hint.
Overall, the motto of the blind date should be to enjoy yourself. Don’t over react or over sympathize with yourself, if it doesn’t go well. If it does, brace yourself for some more fun on the next date!
