5 Ways to Deal with a Competitive Boyfriend
A competitive boyfriend can be a nightmare to deal with. A reasonable amount of competition between partners can be healthy and can help both of them to grow but having a boyfriend who is constantly comparing and contrasting can be terrifying. Here are a few tips to help you to deal with a competitive boyfriend.
1. Don’t pursue the same activities
If you go golfing together, play video games together or learn salsa dancing together, you may be unknowingly allowing yourself to be in situations where your boyfriend can make a comparison. This is not to say that you should cut down on spending time together. Just make sure you don’t deliberately pursue the exact same things. Give lesser opportunities to your boyfriend to compete with you.
2. Don’t compliment him more than required
You don’t want your boyfriend to puff up like a hedgehog with all your compliments, do you? If he is already competitive, he may become even more egoistic with all your praises. Even if you really like something that he does or says, show restraint in showering compliments on him. This will prevent his competitive streak from growing out of bounds.
3. Constantly reaffirm that you both must complement each other
Through actions or conversation, reaffirm in your boyfriend’s mind that you both must bond through your complements and not through competitive skills. Explain to him that neither of you should be vying for the top spot. For example, if you socialize well and your boyfriend is an introvert, take the lead when you attend parties together. Or if your boyfriend is a spontaneous person, allow him to plan all your dates while you focus on something else.
