Save Your Relationship And Learn How To Deal With Jealousy
Peggy, 21, a sophomore at university, was chatting with her roommate Irene, 27, who was in a committed relationship since the last 5 years. Peggy was talking about the harrowing time she was having dealing with her own jealousy in her relationship. If you are facing similar issues, take tips from Peggy and Irene’s chat and learn how to deal with jealousy, once and for all.
1. Push your self-esteem up a notch
“I really feel jealous when my boyfriend hangs out with some of the girls at university. I sometimes wonder if he finds them more attractive than me”, said Peggy. “Self-esteem is one of the most common causes of jealousy, Peggy. Why do you even think that your boyfriend will find the other girls more attractive? Don’t contemplate on how other girls may be better looking than you. Think of how much more pretty you are than the other girls. Makes sense?”, asked Irene. It clearly looked like she knew a lot about jealousy in relationships.
2. Step in your partner’s shoes
“Have you ever imagined how bad your partner would feel when you harass him with all jealousy related questions? He may not like the fact that you don’t trust him. That will only create one more problem in your relationship”, advised Irene. We agree with what Irene said to Peggy. If we step into our partners shoes and see it from his angle, we can learn how to deal with jealousy.
3. Ask yourself for facts
“What is your jealousy based on, Peggy? Do you have facts or evidence to show that your relationship can be at threat if your partner hangs out with the girls at university?”, Irene inquired. “Umm… I don’t have any facts or proofs. It is just a gut feeling”, replied Peggy. We could clearly see where this conversation was heading because Peggy had no evidence to back her thoughts of jealousy. “How will you deal with jealousy if you create worries for yourself? I suggest you stop thinking of ifs and buts, rather focus on facts, Peggy”, suggested Irene.
