9 Tips on How to Tell Your Children You’re Getting a Divorce
6. Be prepared for tricky questions
Know that after hearing you out, your child may ask a lot of questions and some of them may not be as easy to answer as the others. You must keep your calm no matter what. Be patient and try to solve the child’s doubts as gently as possible. Do not yell or get angry at the child. Know that this is emotionally tormenting for your kid as well.
7. Don’t leave the conversation hanging
Make sure you set aside some time for such a conversation and do not let any other appointment cut in the way. Avoid taking phone calls during the talk and try not to leave the room to attend to someone else. If you leave half way through the discussion then your child will be left with a lot of unanswered questions and this can really prove bad for his or her overall development.
8. Get help
If you feel that you may not be able to deal with this discussion all on your own. then you can seek help from others in the family that your child might be close to. Having a third party in the room can help provide some emotional support. Ask your loved ones to help the kid deal with the problem in a positive way.
9. Let them know that they will be loved
The child must understand that just because you are getting a divorce, it does not mean that he/she will have to choose between the father or the mother. Let your kid know that he/she will be equally loved by both the parents and will get time to spend with them as well. The divorce will not change the way the parents feel for the child.
