7 Ways Men & Women Communicate Differently
5. When She Is Low
Man thinks: I want to be her bodyguard and let all her problems come to me. I feel anxious and impatient to put an end to the problem immediately. According to me, problems must be handled instantly, not kept for time to heal them. Hence, when my partner is low, I will give her an advice and expect her to take it and put an end to it, rather than whine about it for weeks.
Woman thinks: Words are a tool for me to express what I am feeling and it helps me to feel light inside. I love to talk in general. But when I am low, talking is the most important thing for me. I will talk to someone I really trust and someone I feel has the power to say just the right thing to make me feel better. If my partner is not able to make me feel better when I am low, I will soon start feeling that he is not the right man for me.
6. The Communication Hurdle
Man thinks: I hate it when I feel like someone is trying to overpower me or my decisions. I would want a partner who always sees the good in me and keeps motivating me and reminding me about how amazing I am. When my partner tells me that I should do something, I start feeling like she is trying to control my life and I tend to get defensive.
Woman thinks: I love to give my partner my opinion about how I would want to see him. However, if he does not listen to me it is completely okay. But if he does, it makes me think that my opinion matters to him. Similarly, I would also like him to give me his opinion about how he wants to see me and what he thinks I should do. It makes me feel that he is taking interest in my life.
7. Apologizing:
Man thinks: I feel that after an argument it is unnecessary to apologize. Instead two people should just forget the fight and move on as their relationship is more important than the fight. I feel apologies bring the person down and the opposite person has power on them. If my partner always insists that I apologize to her after a fight, I may start feeling that she thinks that I am inferior to her.
Woman thinks: I believe apologies bring two people closer after a fight. However, without an apology it is impossible for me to go past what happened. An apology helps to create and maintain relationships. If my partner does not bother to apologize if he has made a mistake, I may begin to feel that he does not value me enough.
