7 Mistakes Parents Make With Children
5. Venting out anger on children
This one is definitely on my top 7. Had a bad day at the office? Can’t get things done? Coming home late? How annoying is it to go through these things and come back home to pick up an argument with your kid? Remember, you don’t take your family to work. So don’t take your work to your family. Keep it separate. Venting out anger on your children is very easy to do. I think the easiest way to avoid this is to take a deep breath, take a moment of solace, and ask yourself “Do they really deserve this mood of mine?” “Can I act like an adult and do something to make it better?”
6. Taking decisions on kid’s behalf
Let your kids suffer the consequences of making a decision. If you keep making decisions on their behalf, their decision making capacity will be halved. You will agree with me when I say that it is very important to make the right decision at the right time in life. We understand that now! The earlier your children learn and understand the importance of making good decisions, the better it will be. It will make them responsible adults.
7. Expecting too high grades
How long have you been working for now? Do you realize what it takes to survive in the real world? Getting good grades throughout school may get you a nice certificate but it will not help you in an argument with a colleague at work. Yeah you know what I am talking about – life skills. I am not demeaning education. Education is very important and lays down the foundation for a wonderful life. But make sure you actively participate in your child’s upbringing and teach them more about the real world. My child is studying economics right now and I often pick up discussions like – “You have been learning the law of demand and supply. Do you know how that is affecting the real estate market lately?” Or if your child is studying Art in college, pick his/her brains and ask, “Do you know what art curators do?”
These top 7 mistakes that parents make with children are not the run-of-the-mill mistakes like ‘being dominant’ or ‘being too harsh’ and so on. I have tried to be more realistic and put in my experience as a mother. Love your child, let your child grow, and let them take a fall – only to stand up and fight.
