6 Tips on How to Stop Being a People Pleaser
4. Learn to be decisive, firm and assertive
You can stop being a people pleaser only if you start becoming strong, decisive, assertive and firm. When you stop caring about what other people will think about you, will you be able to grow a spine and make your own decisions.
5. Tell yourself that it is not always bad to upset someone
Many people pleasers often think that it is important to keep everyone happy otherwise they will always remain left out and will not find social acceptance. This may not be true. You cannot possibly please every person in the world and if you try to do so, you will invite unhappiness for yourself. Keep reiterating to yourself that upsetting someone may not always be a bad thing and to carve your own way in life, you may have to risk making others unhappy.
6. Remember that others won’t please you in return
Why would you want to keep pleasing other people when there is no guarantee that those people will go out of their way to please you? There is no sense in putting in a one sided effort to keep others happy. People apart from your close friends and family are likely to be selfish to some extent and may not bother about pleasing you in return. Remind yourself of this the next time you find yourself trying to please someone.
