11 Tips to Stop Fighting in a Relationship
7. Validate instead of storming out of the room
Don’t run away out of the room during the argument. Also, don’t stay absolutely quite. Doing both these things can create distances between the two of you. Your partner cannot know what you are thinking or how much hurt you are if you don’t tell him directly. If you want some time to deep breathe, just tell your partner that you will talk a little later. Don’t take more than thirty minutes to go back on the issue. It is really not good to leave your partner festering for hours.
8. Don’t say “Time Out”
When you say “Time Out,” the voices are raised and yelling occurs. People tend to overreact to the problem when these two words are said out loud.
9. Have a fair fight
Show respect to your partner and always appreciate the kind and caring words that he uses to finish the fight. Let him know that you love him regardless of the kind of fights that occur between you guys. Give him the benefit of doubt. Don’t make any accusations or false assumptions. Don’t bring up the past. If you want to fight then fight on the present issues only. Be honest and truthful. Don’t skip from one issue to another issue or pull things out of context. Please don’t justify your actions by anger or pain. Be respectful to your partner and don’t push hot buttons.
10. Make adorable gestures and send love signals
No matter how upset or angry you are, your love must overcome the frustration. Demonstrate to your partner that his love is what matters the most. Let him know that you would love him and care for him even if he used hurtful words sometimes. Give him a soft touch on his face when he is leaving for work in the morning. Write him a note or use a number of creative ideas to let him know that you love him. This way, you won’t hurt your self-respect and you won’t make him feel hated. This idea will make him fall in love with you all over again!
11. Go for counselling if nothing works
Counselling is that final chance you give your relationship. Get therapy sessions together because they are very effective. These sessions allow a third party to observe your situation and input suggestions which are not in favor of any one individual.
