10 Steps To Get Over A Breakup
6. Think of your good qualities
Most broken hearts tend to think of the bad qualities they possess and keep blaming themselves for ruining their relationship. In place of that, you need to think about your good qualities. It is these attributes that made them fall in love with you. Feel good about it. You are not the loser. They are, for they were the ones who left you and will be deprived of a beautiful person like you, in their future.
7. Avoid entering the vicious circle of depression and ill health
A breakup compels you to spend painful nights of cries and despair. This leads to insomnia, lack of appetite, ill health and finally depression. Save yourself from this monster for it will place you in a miserable condition and ensure you have no way out. Once declared as a ‘depressed person’, people will either sympathize with you or stay away from you. This will affect your social relationships and you will lose your chance to meet a new partner.
8. Channelize your feelings in a constructive way
It is, indeed, very difficult to cope up with a breakup. But, you need to do this for yourself. Stop pining for your beloved. Instead, channelize your feelings in a constructive way. Go back to the things you loved doing. Take up music lessons, compose new tunes on your musical instrument, get back to gardening or rejoin your cookery class. These activities will not only compel you to focus on something other than your breakup, but also give you immense pleasure.
9. Realize your true potential
Once you get back to your favorite hobby, you must keep on chiseling your skills. This will make you realize your true potential. Who knows, you might turn out to be a famous pop singer of the future or a successful chef?
10. Look forward to a new relationship
Just because you had a bad breakup does not mean that you should lose your faith in love. Take the breakup and the past relationship as a learning experience and try to avoid the mistakes you made in the future. Assure yourself that a better guy is there for you in the near future and look forward to the new love coming in your life.
As Tennyson puts it, “‘Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” No matter how hard you find to conquer the post-breakup phase, try your level best. This is the best opportunity that life has given you to rediscover yourself. All the best!
