5 Ways a Therapist can Help Sort Out Your Relationship Issues
4. Take the couple’s focus on themselves
The blame game is the worst part of any troubled relationship. It is the expectations that each one has from their partner that often when not met, leads to despair and bitterness. What couples don’t understand is that rather than trying to make alterations in their partner, bringing down their own expectation levels a little can do a better job. The therapist needs to pull back all the attention of the partner from what is happening around the relationship, to a point where they can think of how effectively are they themselves reacting and understanding a situation in the relationship. The therapist will make them think about how they feel about the problem and what they do to fix it. Rather than fighting the case of how the other should do the improving, the couple needs to think of how much they themselves can help in setting things in place.
5. Make them fearless
A common fear that prevails in the heart of a couple coming for a therapy is that they are not prepared for it, which actually is not completely wrong. It is very important for the couple in therapy to be confident about the change that they want to bring about in themselves and the relationship. A therapist can use this fear in the minds of the couple, to make them do their best at whatever they are aiming for. Therapists may ask each of the partners to analyze and understand what annoys them the most and in which situation. In doing so, not only is each of them comprehending themselves better, but also helping the partner fix his/her flaws, and thus, changing the patterns of thinking in the relationship.
